Neck Pain, Back Pain, and Sciatica Do NOT Have to Be a Death Sentence…or a Life Sentence!
I have been thinking a lot about why people seem to lash out and cast aspersions when someone is sincerely trying to help, when someone is offering a better way to deal with some aspect of one’s life, and I finally got it!
I have been writing on a myriad of topics for a little over a year now, not only on subjects related to neck pain, back pain, and sciatica…but subjects pertaining to business, marketing, success, persistence, determination, and life, in general.
All the things I earned an honorary doctorate in while fighting for my life!
A little background.
A while back I wrote an article and did a video about how Tony Robbins had offered support at just the right time, in just the right way, and it made a huge difference in my life.
I was attacked for it!
I called him the “Crazed Canuck!”
The Crazed Canuck called me a scammer and attacked my personal and professional integrity. He also made mention of my background and questioned my success in life as related to my office furnishings.
Interesting, a bit amusing, and…
I have never made it a secret that I am rebuilding my life after a catastrophic illness(es) and that we are basically starting from scratch.
Had it not been for incredible friends and community support at just the right moment, we would have been homeless. Even after surviving the worst of it, getting a handle on my incredibly complex neck pain, back pain, and sciatica related issues, and beating a decade long addiction to Oxycontin and Fentanyl, legally prescribed, life, and my recovery, were tenuous for a time.
We were the poster family for Dire Straits!
Since that awful time, I have reclaimed and rebuilt my life, getting a handle on my neck pain, back pain, sciatica, and the underlying diseases that were are the root of my acute and chronic pain.
Anyway, back to The Bad Back Guy!
I started writing about neck pain, back pain, and sciatica to help others.
Then, I started chronicling my efforts using video, so people could see for themselves that I was really doing what I said they should do.
Seeing is believing and all of that!
Then, I started promoting a neck pain, back pain, and sciatica relief program I have used (see the postscript), and works, because people need an alternative to conventional and institutionalized treatment for their neck, back, and sciatic nerve pain, especially when the medical community has written, and ripped, you off…
As they had me!
But I kept getting attacked!
Tony Robbins said it is part of what makes some people tick. He and I follow each other on Twitter and I direct messaged (DM) him after I was attacked by The Crazed Canuck. Tony Robbins is no stranger to personal and professional attacks, and yet I know him to be an awesome guy with an amazingly big heart!
If Tony Robbins gets attacked, I figured I was in good company!
When I first started online and started trying to make a difference in the lives of people suffering from neck pain, back pain, and sciatica, I was taken aback by the venom in some of the attacks.
I would love to tell you I am used to them…but I think I understand them better.
I have continued to grapple with the reasons for the attacks.
Why anyone would attack someone who is simply trying to help others deal with neck pain, back pain, and/or sciatica?
Then it hit me!
You see, I have been wrestling with this for a while now.
First, from a personal point of view as someone reacting to the personal nature of the attacks; and later, as an academic, one interested in what makes some people lash out like that.
Well, I was reading, I say reading but I was actually listening to an unabridged audiobook but Seth Godin, Linchpin: Are You Indispensible? A great book, by the way, and it came to me.
The reason people get angry, the reason they lash out, is because they are afraid!
Well, not wanting to go purely on my gut, I started thinking about it more, started researching the issue, and talking to others who have been faced with the same terrible backlash.
To a person, everyone agreed!
Now, when I talk about being afraid and fear, I am getting very deep into it and I am not a psychologist or a psychiatrist, I am a physical anthropologist. And, while I am very good with people and can get most people in an instant, the whole fear and self-image thing is not my specialty.
However, as noted above, I do understand people and I am a black-belt at what drives, affects, and motivates someone in pain, whether it is neck pain, back pain, sciatica or some other manifestation.
I have been there, done that…as they say!
Interestingly, as I talked to others, read more on the topic (and I read a lot!), and thought my way through the question, it all became clear.
Let me explain.
When we are in pain, and again it really doesn’t matter what sort of pain we are talking about, and when that pain has altered our lives significantly, in other words, when we are disabled as a result of the pain, either temporarily or permanently, we get stuck.
By stuck I mean inertia takes hold.
The question is then a common one, a complex question with a very simple answer.
How can inertia be a factor when someone is in pain? Wouldn’t anyone suffering from acute and/or chronic neck pain, back pain, and/or sciatica do just about anything to eliminate the pain, permanently?
The answer is actually surprising…because the answer is:
It was like a bomb went off, a moment of crystal clarity, the moment when every attack, and every attacker, came into focus and I got it!
You see, I had the same thing go on in my head, the same fear, the same reservations, and I reacted in much the same way….
Neck pain, back pain, and sciatica are terrible, horrible, life-altering, pick an adjective or a descriptive phrase!
And yet, we are familiar with the pain, with the life and the lifestyle it imposes upon us. We become accustomed to the pain, we get used to the routine, it is predictable and we know from day-to-day what will happen in our lives.
The fact is, there are very few surprises in life when one deals with chronic pain day in and day out.
We simply deal with the pain!
Enter The Bad Back Guy!
Here is a likely scenario:
One day while surfing the net, you run across this blog and you watch some crazy guy calling himself The Bad Back Guy and his little dog, TuffGuy, run up a hill!
What else can you do when you suffer from acute and/or chronic neck pain, back pain, and/or sciatica?
There are only so many reruns of Law and Order!
Then you watch as The Bad Back Guy gets caught in a downpour, same little dog, 3am in the morning!
Why does he call him TuffGuy?
Doesn’t he know how to spell? It’s tough not TUFF!
But you keep coming back!
Now he’s riding a recumbent bike and telling me I can do what?
Take back my life?
This guy is nuts!
It makes me angry!
I can’t get any better!
The best medical minds in the world have said I will have to “adjust my lifestyle to my condition.” They also said I will “never be able to do the things I once took for granted.”
They said I was:
AND…I BELIEVED THEM!
Now there is this crazy guy, The Bad Back Guy, who I don’t know from Adam who tells me I can live pain free?
This guy who isn’t even a doctor of medicine? He’s an anthropologist, an academic, an entrepreneur, a whatever!
The Bad Back Guy isn’t an MD, a DO or even a DC or a DPM!
Heck, he isn’t even a veterinarian!
He’s just a physical anthropologist…and not even a “practicing” one!
There’s anger because, not only have you been lied to, you believed it, and it cost you days, months, and even years of your life. You trusted the medical community to give you the best they had to offer and they relegated you to the bench for…
THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!
How uncool is that?
And you are angry at whom?
You are attacking some guy telling you that you can have a life?
You can get it all back?
You can get off the bench and get back in the game?
Because it’s easier…and it is natural!
You SHOULD get angry, I was!
Back to Inertia!
After the initial reaction, you begin to ponder what you have been offered, a life free of neck pain, back pain, and/or sciatica and it frightens you.
It did me!
All of the sudden you begin to think of what is possible.
The next questions are:
After all this time, what will I do?
How will I make a living?
How can I take back my life…I have no life?!
The only life I know has been one consumed with neck pain, back pain, and/or sciatica for the last ______ years (you fill in the blank).
Now this, this Bad Back Guy is telling me I might have to take a chance, thus altering my life once again?
The slogan for inertia is:
The anger returns, anger rooted in uncertainty!
If I do what this Bad Back Clown is saying I should do…and it works?
What the heck do I do next?
Yes, I suffer, I suffer every day, but this life is the one I know, at least I am certain of things, there are no surprises. If I listen to this guy and his little tough TuffGuy, I may end up…where?
I don’t know!
And so the anger returns again. It consumes you because you blame yourself, you blame the doctors, and…
You want to kill the messenger!
The messenger, The Bad Back Guy, is telling you you can have all the things “they” told you you couldn’t have, the things you would have to “get used to doing without!”
Now, The Bad Back Guy is saying take a chance, what do you have to lose but the pain?!
Well, I have a lot to lose if I take a gamble and believe this guy!
BTW, who the heck goes walking with their dog at 3 in the morning anyway…the guy is nuts!
And so on!
It was so clear, all the things you just read are emotions I have experienced in one way or another…and I am certain everyone reading this has too, friends and attackers.
I understand…and it is OK!
Just take a chance!
Life is amazing on the other side!
But you must take a chance, and that is not easy!
In fact, it darn right difficult. There will be days when you will want to send someone out to “whack” me! But if you stick with it I will promise you one thing:
Life can be amazing again!
And, if you take a chance, your neck pain, back pain, and/or sciatica will diminish and it will become contagious; and, that sense of positive expectancy we all feel when we get caught up in something good, something exciting, something life altering is incredible!
Once again, life is amazing and I make you thins promise:
As long as I am on this planet if anyone ever contacts me and wants to talk about their neck pain, back pain, and/or sciatica, or anything else for that matter, I will make myself available to you…for as long as it takes!
Finally, please do one thing for me?
Get angry! Get very angry!
Anger is the precursor to action, so let it run through your arteries and veins until you want to scream…and then SCREAM!
Then, get busy, take a walk, ride a recumbent bike, do something, anything, break through the inertia that binds you to this terrible condition and be free of your neck pain, back pain, and sciatica once and for all!
I wish for you nothing but the best! I wish you happiness, joy, and a pain free life…a life free of neck pain, back pain, and sciatica!
Contact me anytime!
Professor John P. J. Zajaros, Sr., The Bad Back Guy
PS, The program I recommend is at http://TheBadBackGuy.net and is one of the finest I have come across online and I use it myself!